Sorry, I’m Allergic to Griping

           I wrote this song (on Best Buddies CD2 which releases March 6th!) to be funny and make fun of how silly we sound complaining all the time, and it worked better than I thought! Kids love to laugh and mimic each other and it's pretty easy to pick up on one another’s “complaining styles”. In a loving safe-zone, we all can learn the great lesson of laughing at ourselves and growing better.

  • Humor is a great teacher!
  • Humor ignites energy!
  • Humor can break the tension while refocusing negative feelings toward a positive fun perspective!
  • Humor is a great tool for anyone's LIFE TOOLKIT! ESPECIALLY FOR PARENTS!

            The difficult part of parenting is the endless verbal repetition required that quickly becomes not only NOT funny but irritating and wearisome. Any other parents feel like this repetition seems to drain us of the measly half ounce of creativity left after hearing yourself say the same thing 999 times in one day?


COMPLAINING IS ONE OF THOSE AREAS WE FIND OURSELVES BATTLING ON A DAILY BASIS.  (In the south we call it GRIPING...as in gripe…long “i”...griiiiiiiipping!) Samples needed?

“I didn’t get enough!”

“It’s just not fair!

“I don’t like that color!”

“I didn’t want that one! I want something different!”

“Why do I always have to clean my room?”

So inspiring…


Sadly, complaining can become apart of our children’s personalities. If left unchecked, negative talk and negative attitudes can sabotage any efforts we make to have a fun, happy home!

Complaining will make your life miserable.

Complaining is contagious.

Fact #1: Children who habitually complain grow up to be adults who habitually complain.
Fact #2: What we ALLOW to exist in our family culture is as impacting as what we TEACH.
Fact #3: Complaining is a GRATITUDE PROBLEM.


           The great news is gratitude CAN BE TAUGHT AND LEARNED. It may be “human nature”  to complain but creating an awareness of griping will transform the atmosphere. Is complaining the “norm” at your house? Sometimes, it seems like it is for all of us.

           Do you have a strategy to eliminate complaining from the family list of acceptable response patterns? No doubt we all have to regroup again and again in this area. The most serious problem is ….(okay, we may not like this!)...MANY TIMES THE KIDS GET THEIR GRIPING EXPERTISE FROM US! Ouch…

          At the root of complaining is a lack of thankfulness for the blessings of our lives. The fuel of griping is selfishness, sarcasm, and cynicism and all three blind us to the blessings we have and make us oblivious to the value of family and friends! Yes, complaining can even seem funny, clever and entertaining! But complaining is deadly. It will tear down the joy, peace, and destiny of your family. It will erode the foundation of believing we are blessed and appreciating the sacrifices others have made for us.

         As a mom (and now grandmother) I will take any Gripe Busters I can find, bring ‘em on!  Play those songs and sing ‘em again and again! We need them and so do our toddlers, teenagers and every phase in between. Somebody, PLEASE remind me I’ve got it good, especially compared to the standards of the world! And dear God, never let me become a spoiled "take it all for granted" baby! 


May I invite you to join me in one of the best decisions I believe I ever personally made as a parent:  Declaring my home a “GRIPE-FREE ZONE!” Hey, that rhymes! Work with me… how about:

MY HOME… IS A GRIPE FREE ZONE!
I SAID… MY HOME IS A GRIPE FREE ZONE!
IF YOU WANNA GRIPE… GO GRIPE ALONE!
BUT MY HOME… IS A GRIPE FREE ZONE!!!

Okay… enough on-the-spot spontaneity! Lol! It’s time to close.  STAY ENCOURAGED.  STAY STRONG. You got this!! ❤️

Never Give Up!

DeAnza Duron







 

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